Antwort an Tom, den Zugriffsverweigerer Nr. 4
and all the others, whch have not asked for it..
Tao (=Wille Gottes tun) heisst, mit Mühelosigkeit meiner inneren Autorität zu gehorchen, nicht der Autorität eines anderen. Wenn mir jemand eine Frage stellt, die ich nicht sofort verstehe, wird sie einfach nicht beantwortet, weil es zu viel Mühe bereiten würde. Würde ich mich anstrengen, sie verstandesmässig zu erfassen, wäre ich nicht mehr im Tao.
Ein Mißverständnis was die Mühelosigkeit angeht, besteht darin, dass tao-unerfahrene Menschen glauben, sie könnten diese Mühelosigkeit herstellen indem sie z.B. eine Frage , die sie nicht verstanden haben, meditativ durchdringen bzw. ein open-mind -zustand herstellen. Damit wird eine double-bind-Situation hergestellt:
Denn der Mind muss nicht geöffnet werden, er ist schon offen, er will sich nur anders fokussieren, vielleicht auf einen anderen Satz, eine anderes Thema, was ihm grad vor die Linse gerät und ihn triggert.
Und nur seiner eigenen Erkenntnis dient! Weil alles was er fokussiert, sein Bewusstsein erweitert. Darin ist "er" höchst SELBSTsüchtig.
Der Mensch, der auf dem Weg, dem DAO angekommen ist, hat sein Unbewusstes geklärt und seine Schatten gebannt. Das heisst, er ist voll bewusst und muss keine OpenMind-Zustände mehr herstellen, indem er z.B. freischwebende Aufmerksamkeit übt (um ein bestimmtes Problem zu durchleuchten - er kennt keine Probleme, weil er sich keine m a c h t ).
Auf dem WEG angekommen ist man voll bewusst und immer freischwebend aufmerksam. Was nicht heisst, dass man a l l e s versteht.
Der Punkt: Es ist überhaupt kein Bedürfnis mehr da, kein Wunsch, kein Wollen überhaupt etwas zu verstehen. (Gedanklich zu erfassen oder zu analysieren). Aber auch keinerlei Ablehnung dagegen.
Analysiert wird dennoch, aber nur dort, wo es ganz von selbst stattfindet.
Allein meine innere Autorität entscheidet (ohne eigenes Wollen), was ich verstehen soll und was nicht.
Im Tao ist keine Absicht, nicht einmal die Absicht, etwas zu verstehen.
Im Tao bist du nur, wo Du, Dein Mind "metaprogrammiert" ist durch das SELBST. Hier kannst Du gar nicht anderes als deinem inneren Meister "gehorchen", weil der Dein Denken übernommen hat, den Fokus aussucht. Du bist nicht imstande, zu "wählen". Wählen bedeutet, zwischen mindestens 2 Dingen zu wählen . Aber hier hast Du einfach keine Wahl mehr. Es gibt nur eins. Entweder versteh ich z.B. einen Text sofort/spontan oder gar nicht. Than my mind just do not want to be open for this. This does not mean, that I am blocked at all. My mind is always open for another thing, maybe another text. Or maybe not a text, maybe I should rather look inside and listen to my own "text".
Thats the reason why I could not follow your direction/advice to open my mind to your question. THis has nothing do to with being conscious or unconscious...
You have no control anymore of anything.
This kind of non-choosing focussing ist eine Grosse Erleichterung for myself - but for others ein Grosses Ärgernis : You are no more able to follow other peoples expactations ...!! giggle,gröhl und schenkelklopf!! This is always a reason for a cosmic giggle...lach..
Hey, come to the point! - Who's point? gg
You are offtopic! - Yes, thats the way/thread I am always on!gg
I am following strictly my own SELFish desires. (Which does not mean, that I am not walking in your mokassins for a few miles - but only, if you force me to!)
Das grösste Problem auf dem spirituellen Weg ist, dass die Leute all dies m a c h e n wollen, was nicht machbar ist, solange sie noch mit ihrem Ego identifiziert sind: (der patriarchale "right way"der Selbstverbesserung):
You want to open your mind by your self - by certain methods
Your want to open your heart by yourself..
You work on yourself to produce love.
Your are fighting against having expactations.
You try hardly not having any intention (practicise "Absichtslosigkeit")
Same way you are looking for Mühelosigkeit, Effortlessness. usw. usw. - all this other spiritual "virtues" - yes, some of this kind of spiritual egos even m a k e Forgiveness!
But all of this practizising - believe me - is for the katz..!
Because it is still your Ego, which is fighting and its fighting at its own - das Ego kämpft gegen sich selbst und übersieht , dass es dabei gegen die fundamentalen Bedürfnisse des inneren Kindes kämpft.
(Und dabei Schatten auf Schatten anhäuft, der letztlich oft auch als eine tatsächliche Dämon-Halluzination erscheinen kann, wo diese Art von "Askese" zu weit getrieben wird , and this is, because your inner child is starving to death!).
Instead of facing/reflecting the expectations , stellst Du ein Verbot auf. (Restriction, Askese) Verbote, die Dich geradewegs in die Hölle führen! Denn Du kämpfst hier exactly gegen das, was du Dir ersehnst und wofür Du dies alles auf Dich nimmst: Gegen das Kind in Dir, welches (wieder-)geboren will.
Mit dieser Art von Askese wirst Du es niemals nach Bethlehem schaffen, niemals den Stall finden, die Hirten, die Könige..
Mit dieser Art von Askese bist Du der König Herodes, der Kindermörder..!!
(hierbei handelt es sich um Bilder und archetypische Kräfte in der Seele, die erfahrbar sind, wo Du dich auf dem konstruktiven Selbstfindungsweg der "Erlaubnis", der permission, dem "Leftway-path" befindest...)
Die EINZIG WAHRE Spiritualität fängt im Jetzt an und hört im JETZT auf:
Accept YOURSELF THE WAY YOU ARE IN THIS MOMENT. - In every moment...Accept your thoughts and feelings. What ever comes in your mind! Begrüsse es, say Hello to it.
If you are expecting something , look behind this, see, that this is a need of your inner child, feel the need. (Instead saying, you have wrong expactations.)
Feel the needs and than it will change...
Come in contact with your needs, with your inner child and feel the pain of" Mangel an Liebe", cry..cry....cry...es gibt nicht genug Tränen, die man weinen kann..
Statt Deine Bedürfnisse und Bedürftigkeiten zu verurteilen, nimm sie in die Arme..mach Dir bewusst, wie sehr Du Dich nach Liebe sehnst, nach Angenommensein, nach Trost.
Ich hoffe, das jetzt Einiges klarer zu Dir rübergekommen ist, Tom,und du verstehst nun, dass es sich nicht um etwas Persönliches handelte. In fact it is confusing for a normal MindVerstand.
Ich habe mir nicht die Mühe gemacht, in englisch zu schreiben und überlasse Dir diesmal die Mühe des Lesens und Verstehens. heheee...gg, ich denke doch, dass 4Jahre Deutschland seine sprachlichen Spuren bei Dir hinterlassen hat...he?
PS All, what have written in FB Pns was based at kind of a "fluence" of translation from speechless experiencing into my own words. This always is part of intellectual integration and is very important. Also at this point I do not intend to do so, it just happens. I usualy wrote this stuff in diaries, but since I am at the internet I am parting it with other people (not debating it or expecting any answer).
Yesterday y o u have found a word I was on my way to find, just the term for that what I described in this writings: Effortlessness. Mühelosigkeit.
Your reaction told me, that you are feeling blamed by me. Now I hope it es clear, that I did not b l a m e your for giving me advice (to do something). In fact, this does not affect me at all, - it rather makes me smile..
Another factum: We do not only have discrepances because of metaphysical stuff - same time this is a problem on the personal level of communication.
The problem regarding to the metyphysical stuff is, that you are telling me do things, which are just impossible to do. Here you are creating a real trap, a double-bind-situation.
Take the example with the Music video you have postet once. Your simple question was: How do you like that? (a very generalizid question, you did not ask for the singer, the lyrics, the style, nothing special) - and so I assumed a certain intention behind your question, - especially because I saw, this was not really your taste of musicstyle. And so my mind spontanousley startet in free assoziation lustful all around your question. And I asked myself, why you send me a Musivideo witch has thematisid violence/the evil and so I only could connect this with our metaphyisal talk (good/evil dualism). And so I assumed it could have been a kind of metaphyisical game, kind of a "test". I found it fun. (I did not blame you on this point!)
And your reaction - you falled again in this terrible obnoxious Daddy-Modus of yours: Oh dearest Moni - what are you doing again there, why are you putting/reading in my words...do not interprete, I bag you,...Oh ... blablabla ...
And MoniDummy feels bad and sad and confused and disappointed, because all of her creative wild dancing assoziations are not even mentioned and "applaused"..
And than - in the same breath you told me, that the Man on this Video is a very popular singer and was the Backgroundsinger of your Daughter!!!!!!! AHA!!! The background of your question was probably the proud of your daughter?! (nothing wrong with that, but..)
And you try to tell me you asked me just a "simple" Question??? (what means:no intention, no reason, absolutly no expactation behind yourQuestion).
And you are blaming me for assuming and interpretation!!
WARUM NICHT SOFORT SO?! - YOU IDIOT! (Yes, I mean this!You gave me this kind of bulshit 30 years ago and you continue..!)
Wy dont you ask simply for that, what you really want and kindly express yourself. Instead of asking people with unclear formulated questions in such a devlish way like you do: leaving it open to the people what you mean with your questions - but blaming them for their assumings and interpretations.. Damned!
THIS IS MINDCONTROL and really sick! - and this is named a "crazymaker-method" in communicationPsychology. This kind of communications traps are part of real psychoterror, and you are a master by creating such traps. Indeed you are a real double binder!
Another example: You wanted me to answer your questions and if I did so, you were just gone..for days!(Name of the game: Come here - go away!)
If someone wants to be in contact with me, he has to hold connection, instead of first waking expactationes and finally frustrating them..
Erst den Appetit wecken und dann am "langen Arm verhungern lassen", sagt man auf deutsch - First appetize them , than starve them..
Das nennt man Macht-Spielchen, Powergames!
Thats why I named you a "manipulative controlfreak" - das hatte dich wohl so getroffen , - that you have denied FB-access..
It es very interesting to see, that I am at the same problem dealing with you, like I used to do 30 years ago.
And it is amazing, to see, that you have not changed a bit regarding the little bad games you play. And it is amazing to see, the way you react by feeling attacked by me: you have nothing but a "Schmuddel-Rhetorik", which is blaming me of all this points, you do not see on your self. (You better watch your own special way of assuming and interprete, instead of projecting it on me/others!)
30 years ago I was not clear enough to fight doublebinders. 30 years ago I became ill, I almost turned crazy, - ich bekam Angst- und Panikzustände damals.
Also physicaly ill I became afterwards we were sitting about 2 days in a unbearable icecold office, (while works had done at the transformer station causing a power blackout) - I wanted to go home, but you warmed your hands on a candle and asked me to do the same. Draped in coats and blankets I followed stupidely your advice. REsult: Nierenentzündung, Nephritis with high feaver. From than on I suffered almost 25 years on permanent "Bewegungsfieber" until 38.7°.
No, I do not blame you for that. I just point out your kind of grotesque sense of duty and what happens, if someone is not hearing to himself..and follows other peoples strange unhealthy directions!
And this, Tom, was the real reason of quitting my job on Federal Electric!
(Manchmal bekommt man nach langer Zeit noch einmal die Möglichkeit, die Wahrheit zu sagen.!!!.)
Our spirituality is build on sand, as long you deny processworking at your personal shadow, otherwise you go ahead gaming..and your spirituality is nothing but a Thought-Construktion. Eine Idee. A very comfortable, illusionary kind of spirituality. Ohne Saft und Kraft, ohne Fleisch und Blut.
My pn-Writings on FB: I just started to part some of my spiritual life/acknowledge-process with you, but you wanted to t e a c h me..
In fact I really liked, that you did n o t comment on my pn-writings, (I did not ask you for the reason, because I did not simply care about)
All I needed was just a ear and it could have been anybodys ear - but your ear I found perfect for that..I still hoped that you probably knew, what was going up..
Until you interrupted this process (of awareness/intecellectual integration) by starting directing with advice and this way the dissonances began.
What happend? I must assume as usual (pfui, Moni!) - and you are free, to answer me if I am right or wrong (instead of blaming me of illegal assuming/interpreting):
I believe, you have assumed, that I was describing a p r o b l e m (disease) , when I meantioned that I am offen not a b l e to understand your question (bzw. questions at all). And so, you needed to solve it with advicing me to meditate on it.
Once again: When I started with pns to you, I did not know, where this leads me to..Just recently I got really aware of, that this was another part of metaprogramming mind-process.
Everybody who is beyond the ego experiences this Metaprogramming of Mind-Process through the SELF! And I tell you again: If you do not so, you are not beyond Ego! Just that simple.
All this lightworkers and Absolutness-Freaks want to kill me for saying so. Because I am destroying their cloud-castles.
Another generalizing fact is beyond ego, that you can no more "evolve" on your own. Your mind is metaprogrammed in such a way, that you are not a b l e anymore to think about and around your own person, instead you think about others.
You are in a permanent loving state of mind. This does not mean, you are feeling love alle the time, or feeling love the usual common way.
In metaprograming process your atttention-focus has completely turned around (from ego to self; from me to the others, christlich: Umkehr, Umkehrung) and this new basis of beeing, of focussing on the others i s love. Aufmerksamkeit, attention i s love.
All my writings I can see now as part of this intellectual integration of speechless experience.(retrospective) And acts of love. Because I do not evolve on my own anymore as it seemed to be "before" (I went over the Jordan.)...
"Before" I wrote "diary", Tagebuch, - 30 years I lived like an eremit and I wrote down everything what ever happend to me on this inner travelling. I never have talked to anybody about this, das war nicht leicht..nearly going crazy by the way... It startet with being gracless honest and truthful to my self, began to look with my own eyes.. usw.
I wrote my diaries with ink and I destroyed them, dropt them into the water, until the ink resolved. That always happend, because I feared other people to read it. Especially in cases, when I was sure to die soon.
What people think of me...the most of our fear and Angst comes from there! This inner censor had to die..
On this way of writing I also found out, that everybody needs a "you", ein "Du". Everybody who writes (Diary) never writes only for himself, everybody is imaginating a friendly listening ear..
When the censor/Überich has died (thats means you are absolutely free of Angst and Fear!!), than you are beyond ego and you get metaprogramed in a way, that you m u s t communicate your experiences in real to the others, you simply have got n o choice !
(Ey Mann eye, YES, here it comes again ...thats it, thats the word for it:"Choiselessness!" AHA!..and: this is what they were talking about in this books, Now I know, what they have ment. Now it all makes sense!HEUREKA!!!)
Tom, do you see what I mean? HereNow again I just get more acknowledge by writing and describing unintentially and mühelos-effortless what ever will come into my mind..)
And so I evolve right now only in connection and in communication with other human beeings. This I experience as Holy Communion.
One thing is to say: All this what I am talking in such dry words I can translate into the christian terminlogy. Also this is part of integral "work".
Indeed it es really important to experience the process of healing in a christian way, if you grew up with it. Christus is our Healing-SELF Buddha is not the right archetyp on this point of developement. "Buddha" is the personification of enlightment archetpycal powers. He is our enlightment-Self and both are Once, two aspects of the SELF.
Buddha is with us when we have reached the WAY, DAO. When the personal healing process has ended. In fact, the healing process never ends, it is just "turned around": Now y o u are healing the world.. So Christus is always leading..
Thats the way I experience/acknowledge it - describing it in my own words..
"Freedom is, when I donot care about what other people say about me - every rebellic youngster finds himself free at this way.
I rather would say: It is only p a r t of freedom... but not unless you have taken back all kinds of projections which only happens in processworking confrontating the shadow.
And in a" metaprogrammed" projectionless state of mind your brain is such not able to think, what other people think of you, -which does not mean, I am not aware of the state of mind of other people.
I am completely aware of the point, that people offen think, that I am SuperEgoArsch, because they are not able to know the difference between Ego-Centrical and SELF-centrical origin.
In my everydaylife I do not speek about spiritual things, I rather speek about noodlesoop and I love to talk about the weather. I just enjoy the "Zauber des Alltagslebens". And very especially I do not have a concept to missionize... I have no plan, no intention at all, to do anything... I do not know anything unless my focus triggers spontanously on a Object/Subject. And this "Object" is mostly "Flachwix", spiritual LeftbrainBulshit.
All I do, is strolling through the net-diskussion-foren, and were my mind gets triggered on, I spontanously response. There is no willing.. Most of the time I do not care about or think about, if I am offtopik or not (=what other people think of my sayings) - all what I say, makes mostly only sense to myself, not to others. There is not intention to make sense to others. If it makes sense, ok; if not, is also ok. All my doings and sayings is just for mySELF, only on this basis I do get continuing acknowledge in interaction with other people.
Sometimes I get triggered to talk about spiritual traps or I am on the psychological (relative) level responding..talking about own lifeexperiences instead of hanging up in saft-und kraftloser Theorie.. even I know, at the highest level of consciousness there is no such thing like "Erfahrung"/Experience..all stages have to be included! And every problem has to be solved on the level, it came to existence. A communication problem has to be solved on the social ego/personalLevel, you cannot say : Ahhh, this problem does not exist, because it is a personal problem and personal problems are for the Absolute just a illusion. No!
On this way you are avoiding just problems and its solutions, you are repressing your real (uncomfortable, bad, "negative") feelings into the shadow and all what you are doing is feeding your demon, your "Satan" - at the point of the personal Unconsciousness. And you will waste more and more energy to control this demon.
Further is on Dao/Hands of God no own will to do anything for others and no need to get anything from others. You do not think/care for results of my doing. No interest of doing good for somone. I am not giving people advice, Lebensberatung und Bulshit like that.
And I am not asking for understanding, no need for that..
What someone is doing with my writing (in this case it is you), I do not think about. It is just your own problem, if you get a problem with my text. If you are rebellic and feel insulted and beleidigt...your problem. (I have critizised you in a construktive way, if you feel attacked by me and destructed - your EgoProblem)...
You are so completely free, of what you (and others) think of me and/or my writings, because I have no expactations - No need for response. No need to be understood. I am absolutely free o f f all this kind of needs and other necessities - and with the same breath, I get everything I "need" - feeded by the Cosmos, completely saved, salvaged in the Arms of God..
Like all the other Wordpad-writings this writing will also be posted into the net as a blog and I do not look back at it, I do not care, what someone is doing with it. I am not looking for comments. Fact is, nobody really is interested.. harharhar..... rofl, but this does not affect me at all. I am only in it for fun. :))
All what I do and say supposed to be only meaning for mySELF.
And my SELF becomes more and more "Alles, was ist" per "Vereinheitlichung", unification.
Auch ein expandierendes inflationäres SuperEgo dünkt sich übrigens als "Alles, was ist", jedoch auf dem Wege der perversen "("horizontalen")"Verein-nahmung", statt auf dem Wege der Einheit..
Der Teufel wie Engel gleichen sich wieder einmal bis aufs Haar. Deshalb braucht es die Gabe der "Unterscheidung der Geister"und die entwickelst Du erst jenseits von Ego. Dann erkennst Du die Fälschung. Das nennt man wahres "Klarsehen" bzw. "Wahrsehen" der Wirklichkeit.
"Erst ist ein Baum, dann ist kein Baum, dann ist." Zen-Spruch.
This is a very dynamic event, not static or timeline-linar , like most people think. It is both. It is accomplishing every acknowledge-process, infact it is ONCE.
On Dao, means: On the Hand of God, you are not finished, you are not a wise guy , in fact, you know you are really Anfänger. Your beeing is anfängerbeeing.. another paradox,... undescribable.
Erst ist ein Schmerz,
Dann ist kein Schmerz,
Es geht bei diesem Zenspruch nicht nur um Bäume oder Berge, sondern auch um "psychosomatische "Zustände, bzw. Gefühle, Empfindungen, Gedanken, Intuition.
Awareness must be practicised in erster Linie to the inside of you: On your thinking, your feeling, your perception, intuition.
Awareness does not mean, that i concentrate myself on the outside facts. Many people practicise it this way: to be aware of all, whats around them in the outer world.
Awareness has nothing to do with concentration or paying attention in the common way.
Very often it gets easily confused with concentration for the reason to avoid dissipations. With Concentration you do a good job at work , but if you do not considerate the underlaind conflict, that you in truth are hating the job you do.. you can not call this awareness.
ZEN for a example says, if you practicizise awareness, you can do any kind of a job. I have tried this by not knowing, that concentration is not the same as awareness and what happend was, that I did repress my bad feelings about my job. This missunderstanding is quiet usual.
Truth is: As long you are in Ego, you just cannot be aware, all you do is being concentrated.
Anything else, any kind of practizising the ego uses is just to avoid the bad feelings . Meditation is used this way also. Zur Schmerzvermeidung. Avoiding pain.
Und nochmal: If your spiritual way/ developement did not hurt you, your house is build on sand!
Everybody wants to get enlightened, but not one wants to be healed!!!!
This is, what I am always talking about!
Healing is first!
Enlightement, Spirituality, Rising 5th Dimension - all this are letterwords, unless you do not heal, unless you do not confrontate your overwhelming underlaind pain (Shadow).
But nobody wants to listen, in fact, I get attacked by all this pseudo-spiris..so-called LightWorkers and other Weltverbesserern.
Starry-eyed idealists. (O, have seen a light, lets rescue the world....lets make revolution.) I have met so-called lightworkers filled up to their collars with hate against everybody who tells them, to change first yourself - and the world is alright..
Scared to death of their dark side they fight you bis aufs Messer. And some, if they could, they would really kill you..
On Dao you only come to true acknowledge if you are willing to feel the pain. Und glaube nur nicht, dass man beyond ego nicht fähig ist, Schmerz zu fühlen.
Beyond Ego you are able to feel the pain of you inner child. Your inner child is freed and its pain is completely different from pseudopain of the ego! It is more like sorrow. And and same time you feel invulnerable. This sorrow is disappointed love. It is like you are giving someone a present and this person does not like it or is not even seeing it, neather meantioning it...
Sometimes it happens, they slap your present just back into your face...
Tears of sorrow..
On Dao you are really able to feel the pain of the whole world. (it is)You see the world in agonie. You are once with Mother Earth. But this is changing into the other beeing state of "it is not" (kein Schmerz). The Nr. 3: is (neather-nor) ..
All this conditions are in permanent flow, you never stagnate on a certain point ((is or is not (Self and Nonself))
You experience, that you are everybody. You have experienced every pain, anybody has ever felt (this is result of "shadow-work"!). And because you are able to feel your pain, akzepting your pain, h u g your pain and having love for yourself - you are able to feel the pain of others. This is healing, this means Mitgefühl.
Enlightenment without healing - no chance for Mitgefühl..
All this love-sending Lightworkers are just faking , if they did not do their Shadow-Job. Love is here just a letterword. Ein Gedanke. They should give themselves love and heal their own pain instead of bothering the poor world with their Love-fakes.
On Dao your mind is like a child again. You do believe everything someone is telling you. If you have not integrated your rationality to make differences on this point, you are really in trouble. Unterscheidung der Geister sagt man auch dazu..ein weites Feld..
Another paradox: You believe everything und to the same time you are able to see, that 99% of the people are talking about things, they have not experienced. Second Hand Schrott. And you really wonder about that...(remember when you got older and you found your parents just desillusioned stupid after you had idealised them and believed everything they ever said? That kind of desillusion happens in a big large style..
Dann siehst du die ganze Welt voller nackter Kaiser....Comedy Vobiscum...rofl..:)) looking through the eyes of your inner child..! yipppyyyy..!
Thats the point your inner child gets this great Max-and-Moritz-Feeling... krch...it is so funny..rofle..Giggle-gröhl-und-Schenkelklopf!
Healing, Liebe = Christus
Enlightenment, Erkenntnis = Buddha
Both: sowohl - als auch; as well as.... Hand in Hand.
Für heute genug - Der Berg ruft..!
PS: Regarding Interpretation:
There are 2 ways to interprete the "o.k" in a conversation:
1. in a defensive way - like "Get that? (you dummy)
Is that finally clear to you now? (Idiot!)
2. in a unaffected way - like "Du you understand, what I mean? Weisst Du was ich meine? Verstehst du mich richtig?
On internet we are writing and we do not see the mimik and gesture of the others. This is a real problem, we should always be aware of.
Otherwise we are just projecting our own defensive ego into the words of the other person.
This kind of emotional projective interpretation we must pay attention!
I am writing in Diskussion-Threads since about 1/2 year and I have learned a lot about th origin of most misunderstandings.
Reason is allways a bad Self-Esteeme. Most of the time our self-esteem is fluctuating and it depends on outer Influence. Someone is nice to us - we feel good. Someone is unfriendly - we feel bad. If you have a success-experience: you feel great. (depends on outer influence)
But some people have permanent problems with self-esteem, they are in a permanent defensive poise -they are always feeling attacked by the others. This is a sign of a very deep inferiority-complex.... they do really have a steady problem with the envirement/other people and themselves.
And it also happens to myself: When I am getting attacked from some users over a longer time, I already expect attack, when I see the blinking of the systemlamp! THis is the point, that I take care of myself - I have to watch out and pay atttention to my own reaction.
You never also know, in which way they use smilies. Many people use it in a zynical and sarkastic way. If you do not see face etc., you are really offen simply puzzled and the best way is, to ask them, what they mean..
I have found out, that young people are the most clearest heads. I have never had any communicationProblem with them.This is the reason, that from now on I only want to speak to the "Kinder, Witwen und Waisen".